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The benefits of self-love

The benefits of self-love are enormous. That’s why self-love is a concept that has gained a lot of attention in recent years. Simply put, self-love is the act of valuing and respecting yourself for who you are, as you are. While it might seem like a selfish or egotistical concept, practicing self-love can actually have numerous benefits for mental health, relationships, and overall well-being. I experienced this myself once I started to practice more self-love. In this blog, I’ll explore some of the positive effects of self-love and why it’s worth incorporating it into your daily routine.

Improved mental health

One of the most significant benefits of self-love is improved mental health. By practicing self-love, we are learning to accept ourselves as we are, and we recognize our inherent value as human beings. This, in turn, can lead to a reduction in anxiety and depression symptoms, increased self-confidence, and a greater sense of overall happiness and fulfillment.

Additionally, self-love can help us develop a more positive outlook on life. A paradigm shift if you will. We can start to see the world in a more optimistic light by focussing on our strengths and accomplishments rather than our shortcomings and failures. This shift in perspective can help us feel more resilient and better equipped to handle challenges when they arise.

Sad man thinking

Improving on your mental health doesn’t have to be difficult or costly, there are a lot of easy things we can do ourselves to improve it. Here are a few things you can easily do to improve on your mental health;

  1. Read a book, or write a journal. Reading lets you use your imagination and gives you insights into the greatest minds available. It will provide you with new information and ideas to better your own life. Writing a journal lets you analyze your day and the problems you encounter. By writing you take a step back and create mental clearness.
  2. Stay active. Our bodies are designed to move. Go for a walk, do some yoga or go to the gym. Movement releases the hope molecule, better known as myokines. This hope molecule can help reduce stress, anxiety, depression and more. You can read study’s on them here and here.
  3. Eat healthy. Instead of chips and junk food, choose vegetables, fruits, nuts, lean protein, whole grain. These will give you nutrition and in turn extra energy.
  4. Get enough sleep, this is crucial for mental health. We need between 7 and 9 hours of sleep. Make sure you get this amount every night.
  5. Be social. Humans are social beings, we need social interaction to feel validated and to feel part of a bigger whole. So go see friends and family, go join a group or do some voluntary work.

Improving your mental health is a journey that takes time and effort. Don’t rush and enjoy the journey, be kind to yourself and celebrate the progress you are making, tje

Better relationships

Another key benefit of self-love is that it can improve our relationships with others. When we learn to love and respect ourselves, we’re more likely to attract healthy, positive relationships with others. We’re also more likely to set boundaries and prioritize our own needs, which can help us avoid unhealthy or toxic relationships.

Moreover, practicing self-love can make us better partners, friends, and family members. When we feel secure in ourselves and our worth, we’re better able to offer love and support to those around us. We’re also more likely to be forgiving, empathetic, and compassionate towards others, as we’ve learned to offer these qualities to ourselves first.

People on a bench having a conversation

Here are some things you can do to better your relationships with others;

  1. Set boundary’s. Self-love means respecting your own needs. By setting healthy boundary’s you show others that you respect yourself and those needs, and that you want to be treated with respect. This will help make the relationship more authentic and fulfilling for you both.
  2. Be your authentic self. When you are authentic, you are honest about who you are and what you are about. This honesty will be appreciated and valued by your relationships.
  3. Self compassion can help better your relationships. When you’re more accepting and forgiving of your own flaws, you become less judgmental and critical of others, making it easier to connect with them.
  4. Empathic listening, this means listening with the intent to understand. No judgement, no advice giving, only seeking to understand the other’s point of view. By doing this you show you respect the other person and create a space for them where they feel heard and understood. It will make it easier on them to open up to you.
  5. Practice forgiveness. Learn to be compassionate and forgive yourself for your mistakes. You can than apply this in your relationships. This will help you let go of resentment and grudges. By forgiving others your relationship will deepen, and you will open yourself up for more love, compassion and empathy, that can help strengthen your relationships.

As with improving your mental health, improving your relationships takes time and effort. Communicating your intent to improve your relationship can be a great first step. By doing this you let the other know you respect them and want to improve the relationship, and when you fail on one of the points there will be more empathy.

Overall well-being

In addition to improving mental health and relationships, another benefit of self-love is that it can also have a positive impact on our overall well-being. When we prioritize self-love, we’re more likely to take care of our bodies, minds, and spirits in a holistic way. This might mean eating a healthy diet, getting enough sleep, exercising regularly, and engaging in hobbies or activities that bring us joy.

Additionally, self-love can help us manage stress and reduce our risk of burnout. When we take the time to nurture ourselves, we’re better equipped to handle the demands of daily life and maintain a sense of balance and harmony in our lives.

Man embracing the sunrise

I myself have been dealing with cluster headache for years. Once I started to practice self-love, my overall well-being has had an incredibly positive boost. Bettering your overall well-being doesn’t have to be difficult or take a lot of time. You can do it easily and even combine it with other things like bettering your mental health.

These 5 easy to do tips will help you better your overall well-being;
  1. Drink a glass of water first thing in the morning. When we sleep we sweat, this dehydrates our body’s. Drinking a glass of water first thing in the morning makes sure that you hydrate, and shows your body that you love it.
  2. Leave your phone off for the first 30 min to 1 hour at the start of your day. Our phones and especially social media bombard us with ideas, impulses and all kinds of positive and negative influences. Give your body and mind the time to start up before you expose it to those influences. It will increase your mental health.
  3. Go for a walk before you start your day. Early morning walks are a great way of expressing self-love. You move your body which releases myokines, you get fresh air, and the sunlight will provide you with vitamin D. Walks in nature are especially good for you!
  4. Get out of bed at the first alarm. We all love to snooze, but snoozing is actually very unhealthy. When we sleep we don’t sleep uninterrupted, rather we sleep in cycles. These cycles have a duration of about 1.5 hours. Once you go back to sleep after the first alarm, your body starts a new sleep cycle. That’s why you feel so terrible when you do get out of bed after snoozing for a while. You are forcing your body to function while it’s still in sleep mode.
  5. Take a moment of complete silence. No talking, no phone, nothing. Just you. Focus on your breathing. Take big breaths in through your nose and exhale through your mouth. This will calm your body and mind. This doesn’t have to be long, a few minutes will do.

In conclusion, practicing self-love is a powerful tool for improving mental health, relationships, and overall well-being. While it might take time and effort to develop a regular self-love practice, the benefits are well worth it. Whether you’re struggling with anxiety and depression, seeking healthier relationships, or simply looking to improve your quality of life, self-love is a valuable practice that can help you achieve your goals.

Enjoy life to the fullest, BEINLOVEWITHYOURSELF!